If I Stopped Hating You by Colby Wilkens

Mind-reading: You assume other people hate you or harbor other negative thoughts, even though they’ve never said anything to indicate as much.

You worry they hate you, but really, they just have other things on their mind or made an honest mistake.

Personalization: When people seem distant or short with you or leave you out, you take it personally.

Catastrophizing: You don’t hear back from anyone for a day or two, so you start to imagine no one cares.

The feeling that everyone hates you can happen as a result of a few different distortions: Many people experience them occasionally. If your partner and best friend usually get back to you right away, it’s understandable to feel somewhat concerned.īut when you’re fed, rested, and feel otherwise well physically, you’ll likely find it easier to accept the situation and wait patiently without reading too much into their actions.Ĭognitive distortions refer to irrational patterns of thinking that affect your perception of reality. You’re convinced no one’s replying because they all hate you. When the afternoon rolls around, your silent phone feels like an accusation. You text a few more people, wanting to talk with someone.

You texted your best friend for advice but still haven’t heard back. By late morning, you feel jumpy and irritable. You skip breakfast, not having much appetite, and drink a lot of coffee to combat your exhaustion. You couldn’t sleep, so you spent most of the night worrying.

Your partner didn’t reply to your texts the night before, and the upstairs neighbors played music late into the night. In basic terms, this connection means you might experience emotional symptoms, including anxious or fearful thoughts, when your physical needs go unmet. Chronic pain and chronic stress may be connected. If you’ve heard of the mind-body connection, you might already know that emotional and physical symptoms can play off each other.

If I Stopped Hating You by Colby Wilkens